Quickies

With the festive seasons just around the corner, sex and sexual experimentation typically take a bit of a backseat.

Not because you’re not in the mood, but where is the time, space and privacy?

The neighbourhood gets louder and brighter with lights and parties everywhere, friends and family may want to come over to exchange sweets, and you’re probably expected to make appearances at that aunty’s house because she sweetly asks for you every year. 

How do you make time for that hot Bumble date or catch up with your live-in partner then?

The solution? Quickies.

Many of us may have tried them when we were younger, when space and time felt like luxuries that our newly adult lives couldn’t offer us just yet. So we got hot and heavy on staircases, the backseat of a car, abandoned parking lots, random unlit corners of the area we grew up in, and… any other spot that offered even a fleeting sense of privacy and time. Much like our Bombay lovers who have shown us over decades, just how much an umbrella can do.

The idea of going back to quickies may sound juvenile or less intimate, but that’s where we come in. Here’s how you can make the most of your quickies and chase the sexual release, intimacy, passion or connection that you seek in these busy, hectic times.

 

Build up the heat

The actual quickie may not last too long, but that’s no reason why the play leading up to the meeting can’t be slow, sensual and prolonged. Tease each other over detailed texts, send voice notes of nothing but dirty talk, dirty nicknames, whispers of their name, zipper sounds or your heavy breathing. Plan the location, the position, everything. Tell them what you want and how you want them. Nothing gets your body in the mood faster than a mind that’s already in the mood.

Dress smart

Of course you want to dress sexy but don’t pick the garter set or that pair of jeans that takes forever to come off. Don’t wear too many layers either. Save all that extra time for the actual act and wear clothes that are cute and loose enough for some easy under-the-shirt play and elastic bottoms or skirts that can slide off or stay on while you have sex. Keeping some of your clothes on will only make the scene hotter and add to the thrill of the moment.

 

Masturbate first

Your quickie is likely to be low on foreplay, which may mean that you take longer to get hard or get your body in the mood when you meet in person. Try teasing and playing with yourself before you meet, get yourself in the right headspace for your quick encounter. 

 

Carry lube

You’ll need it! Expecting your body to naturally lubricate is tough enough as is, but the pressures of lubricating effectively when you’re in a rush and might be skipping on foreplay, is not going to help you stay in the mood at all. Pack that tube of lube, double check your pockets for condoms and throw in a pack of wet wipes before you head out.

 

Positions

Standing up

If your meet-up spot offers no space to be seated or to lean/lie down, upright sex is your best bet. Lube up, whip out those latex barriers, and let the heat of the moment take over. Our favourite perk for doing it while standing up? You can keep making out throughout the moment, your hands have access to all of each other, and you can keep most of your clothes on to make the thrill of that moment feel even more intense and giddying. Even going down on each other feels hotter this way.

Missionary

If you do have access to a space where you can lie down, that’s great! It may make the moment feel more like the longer sessions you have when you have the time and space, and feel a little more intimate and a little less rushed than having to do it standing up. If your meet-up spot is the backseat of a car, you may not be able to get your hands all over each other with much ease, but this definitely gives you more privacy to make a little noise, play for longer and even take some more clothes off.

Seated

There is so much passion and intimacy to be found in climbing onto your partner’s lap, straddling them and feeling their arms wrap around you or feeling them bury their face in your chest. The seated position may limit your lower body’s movements, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still have a gratifying time together.

Aftercare

You may not have the time to hold each other and snuggle after your quickie, and that’s okay. Manage expectations beforehand by letting your partner know that you will likely have to leave abruptly, and text them after the act to let them know how you felt about the quickie and check on them. Even if it’s a casual, one-time hookup, there’s no reason why you can’t take the opportunity to practise some communication and end the hookup on a kind note!