Double Penetration

What do you think of when you hear the phrase Double Penetration? The general idea is that two cis men play with a cis woman partner by simultaneously penetrating her vaginally and anally.

The fantasy of this act is so common and so strong, it has earned itself a spot as its own genre of porn. Why is this fantasy so strong? What about DP makes people want to see it as the grand finale in nearly every MMF porn video?

For the person receiving the DP, the act could mean a strong sensation of pressure, pleasure and a desirable amount of consensual pain across multiple erogenous zones. Two partners means stimulus for the G-spot, clit, vagina, anus, with twice as many hands to toy with you, twice as many mouths to tease and whisper to you, and twice the number of moans for you.

But does DPing have to be an act for MMF trios alone? Absolutely not, even our definition of DP is incomplete because of our understanding of sexual acts coming primarily from porn that’s made by cis white men.

The complete definition of DP : “Double penetration is any act that involves filling one or more orifices (anus, vagina, or mouth) with any combination of p*nises, dildos, ball gags, butt plugs (or other sex toys), fingers, and fists,” explains Luna Matatas, a sexuality educator and creator of Peg the Patriarchy.

The idea that some sex acts must be reserved for straight couples or cis threesomes alone is limiting and frankly, misinformed. So, thanks to porn stereotypes, we could have all been expanding our sexual experiences but we just…haven’t? Yes! But don’t get carried away and go all in. (Pun intended)

By Yourself

Start slow, use your hands first. Gently use your fingers to get the feel right. You can then elevate it by using a single toy & fingers. Then graduate to two toys!

As a couple

Stay gentle with this too. Try your hands first, escalate to using a body part and fingers, & you can then add toys to the mix.

As a group

I would heavily suggest making sure your body is used to penetration before you even dive into this scenario. Once you have practice and have experienced DP by yourself, in a safe partnership, and with toys, it’s safe to explore options with more people.

Why begin with toys?

1. Safety and Control: Using toys allows you to control the pace, pressure, and depth, ensuring your comfort at all times. 
2.  Self-Discovery: Before introducing a third into the mix, understand what you enjoy and what feels comfortable for you. This will allow you to set detailed boundaries and confidently seek the sensations and speeds that truly bring you pleasure while making you feel safe and in control.
3. Reduced Pressure: There's no need to worry about another person's pleasure or feelings, allowing you to focus entirely on your own experience.

Steps to Get Started

1. Choose the Right Toys: There's a wide variety of toys available that are designed for both vaginal and anal play. When starting, opt for toys with a smaller girth and gradually work your way up as you become more comfortable.

2. Lubrication is Essential: The anus doesn't self-lubricate, so it's crucial to use a good-quality lubricant to ensure comfort and safety. If you're using silicone toys, ensure your lubricant is compatible.

3. Cleanliness: Ensure your toys are clean before and after use. If switching between vaginal and anal play, clean the toy in between to avoid bacterial transfer.

4. Start Slowly: Initiate with one toy and get accustomed to the sensation before introducing another. Once you're comfortable, you can explore using two toys simultaneously.

5. Find a Comfortable Position: Whether lying on your back, side, or on all fours, find a position where you can easily access both areas and manipulate the toys.

6. Listen to Your Body: If something feels uncomfortable or painful, stop and adjust. There's no rush; the goal is exploration and pleasure.

Once you have a better understanding of your own likes and limits, you might feel more confident about discussing the possibility of double penetration with a partner.

Remember, the key is always consent, communication, and mutual respect. Not ‘convincing’ or coercing them.

Exploring your body's responses and boundaries with toys can be an enlightening experience. It allows for a safe and controlled environment where you can discover what you enjoy. 

Whether you decide to explore double penetration with a partner or keep it as a solo activity, it's all about finding what brings you pleasure.

Remember, everyone's journey with their s*xuality is personal. It's always recommended to do further research or consult with a professional if you have specific concerns or questions.