Same Room Same Partner: Swinging Trend In India

I’ve always wondered how kinky India really is.

Growing up here obviously meant that I heard a lot about how our traditional values mean that sex is saved for marriage or explored very, very discreetly before marriage and is seen as romantic and passionate, never really casual.

And yet, we watch enormous amounts of porn, we have dedicated subreddits for exhibitionists and voyeurs, and it doesn’t take a lot of work before you meet elder millennials or boomers who talk about hooking up at malls, throwing ‘key parties’* or being secret swingers in their town.

Just when I thought people couldn’t get naughtier and kinkier, I discovered the term SRSP on reddit. Interestingly enough, it’s hard to see this phrase anywhere but in India.

Where swinging refers to the consensual practice of couples ‘exchanging’ partners for various sexual acts, SRSP or Same Room, Same Partner, refers to the act of two or more couples partaking in sexual acts in the same room.

Unlike an orgy though, everyone engages in sex with their primary partners, and no physical contact is really made between two couples.

It’s not that hard to imagine, is it?

A culture where commitment and fidelity is taken seriously, it only makes sense that a popular kink is to watch and be watched without challenging the ‘sanctity’ of one’s commitment to their partner.

It’s a fantastic way to take a baby step in the direction of threesomes or swinging without feeling the intense guilt of possibly having disrespected your relationship.

I came across SRSP while I was looking for kinky but safe options for my partner and I to mess around with more people. It’s not that our sex life is not great, but the idea of even more people just turns both of us on. We were interested in swinging but beyond fantasising about it, it’s hard to find a real starting point.

Here are some more terms we found:

Soft Swap: engaging in non-penetrative sexual activities with other couples, such as kissing, touching, or oral sex

Full Swap: engaging in penetrative sexual activities with partners other than one's own. This can occur with or without the presence of one's own partner.

Separate Room Swap: Couples swap partners but do so in separate rooms, rather than all being in the same room together

Closed Room Swap: Similar to separate room swapping, but with the added condition that the door remains closed

Open Room Swap: All couples involved in the swap are in the same room together while engaging in sexual activities with their respective partners. This can create a more communal or group dynamic.

Same Room Swap: Couples engage in sexual activities with their own partners in the same room as another couple who are also swapping partners. This allows for a shared experience and increased intimacy between the couples involved.

But SRSP?

It was the perfect start.

SRSP meant I did not have to deal with the overwhelm of someone else touching my partner or them climaxing in someone else’s arms.

It meant I could watch other people and still have my partner next to me, unlike the way watching porn alone sometimes makes me struggle with shame.

SRSP also meant that my partner and I could watch another couple getting it on for us. Or because of us. Our presence there would turn them on, they would orgasm in each other’s arms because of us, and we would be thoroughly enjoyed and sexualised as they made love to each other.

If we liked it, the conversations to take the next step of having a threesome or swinging would become so much easier.

We may even choose not to go beyond SRSP and still enjoy putting on a show for other couples. That sounds so much nicer than rushing into a threesome and getting overwhelmed.

I think that’s why SRSP does so well in India.

People are capable of kinks in every part of the world, but sometimes the things we dream of, get hard for, get wet for and thirst after, are the very things that society or traditional values have trained us to see as raunchy, lustful or wrong.

We want to try that slap that feels like a harsh disciplinary act, we want the thrill of whispering something perverse into our partner’s ear as they keep a straight face during a family dinner, we love those old malls and movie theaters that are perfect to get a little handsy in and we love sharing a little kiss in the backseat of a taxi or in an auto.

While many would argue that kink communities or BDSM groups in India are new and likely to be influenced by online trends, there’s no denying that the older generations and mine have a lot in common.

They put their keys in a bowl, I post NSFW images on Reddit.

We are exactly the same.