Cuckquean: 4 Cuckqueans Help Understand This Fetish From Their Perspective

I spoke to 4 Cuckqueans to bring more perspective on why people like cuckolding, and to shed some light on the pleasure it brings people to partake in this lifestyle. Fetishes are complex and look different for everyone involved. We must gain perspective from people’s stories, then weave our own; find our own path through these acts or sit back and respect it even when it’s not for us. I hope you find a kinder curiousity and a more compassionate view on cuckolding acts, just as I have from speaking to these Cuckqueans. - Aashish Mehrotra

A cuckquean derives sexual pleasure from having their partner have sex with another person while they watch either in person or through video. This usually involves humiliation of the Cuckquean- a factor she not only consents to but also actively craves and desires in the bedroom.

This kink is intimate and only you and your partner understand the amount of faith, trust and love it requires to participate in this fetish and define what sex means for you. This kink creates room for voyeurism and exhibitionism, sadism and masochism, power play, humiliation, restraint and more.

 It involves several erotic building blocks that helps a lot of people discover new sides of themselves while simultaneously building more trust and communication with their partners.

What did our cuckqueans say about why they indulge in this fetish?

Cuckquean 1

“I love watching my man having sex with another woman. It makes him seem much more desirable especially when another woman is enjoying him so much. The fact that I can’t participate until the Cuckcake is gone always charges me up. The sex we have afterwards is ...shattering.”

Cuckquean 2

“I love participating and not only watching. It’s the wait that is my fetish. I can participate only once my partner allows me to.”

Cuckquean 3

“Me and my partner started off with ethical non monogamy but everytime he would come back from having sex with someone, somehow that turned me on. We slowly moved towards Cuckqueaning.”

Cuckquean 4

“It was my husband's idea to have a threesome to spice up our marriage. I slowly took a backseat and only started enjoying watching the act and then participating in aftercare for my husband and the partner involved.”

And what about jealousy?

The response was unanimous. “That’s the point.”

The humiliation, the degradation, the jealousy, the restraint, it’s a turn on and plays a huge part in making all involved parties feel sexually empowered or more connected. Sometimes they masturbate while watching, sometimes they’re not allowed to touch themselves at all. It is the masochism for them, and sometimes the sadism of exercising that power and control from the partner and the bull / cuckcake.

Does it always involve degradation?

Do the partners continuously speak while it's happening?

Cuckquean 1

“Absolutely not! It’s more of the voyeur aspect for me. Watching him while I sit in the corner of the hotel room smoking and drinking my wine. It’s like I am not even there.”

Cuckquean 2

“I enjoy it! But there are boundaries. I don’t want the bull telling me crap. I can take it from my man.”

Cuckquean 3

“Yup. I love it.” 

Cuckquean 4

“No. That’s not what we are into. I think it’s more about the act in general.”

Advice for couples who want to try this fetish out?

Cuckquean 1

“Trust and communication. Reiterate that you guys are solid.”

Cuckquean 2

“Aftercare, aftercare, aftercare. Without that, you are going to have so much anxiousness!”

Cuckquean 3

“Start small. Watch your partner engage in solo sex while watching porn, let him fantasise aloud about other people, and see how it makes you feel.” 

Cuckquean 4

“Do not get friends involved.”