Politics of Sex

Grandmother Owns a Vibrator : The Issue of Senior Sex

“Her son’s hair is turning grey and she still lusts after each random man she comes across,”  Is what one of my cousins said about a relative. “My grandmother secretly owns a vibrator” Was the prem...

Come Out

It’s that time of the year again. As that giddy feeling of seeing queer content on your timeline slowly floods your system, so does the urgency to be out and proud. Your community calls you to the ...

Rebuilding Sex Ed and Porn With Vex Ashley

I was never much of a porn enthusiast. Conditioned to believe that sex was an act that only men actively enjoyed, while women begrudgingly tolerated, I struggled to place myself on this spectrum of...

Ethical Porn

I haven’t always been a fan of porn. It still takes a lot out of me to say I enjoy it. For someone who was around during the DPS video leak, Kim Kardashian Leak, Paris Hilton, The Fappening, reveng...

Don't call me Bhabhi - Ethical Indian Erotica

"Savita Bhabhi - The Sexual Adventures of a Hot Indian Bhabhi" is a popular Indian comic by Kirtu. The erotic webcomic is described to be “about the adventures of a bored and emotionally neglected ...

Disability and Casual Sex

Written by Nu As a queer physically disabled savarna person, my body has existed in many kink spaces of well known cities such as Bombay. While entering a room, I carry my disabled queer body with ...

Fleshlights and My Masculinity

Vibrators are empowering. Fleshlights are not.  That’s what I have learned from people online, primarily from cis men and cis women. “Any man who uses a fleshlight isn’t really a man” “What a loser...

Watching Porn With Strangers

It was an extremely unusual experience. You’d think the act of watching a movie— where two women passionately yet carefully undressed each other— in the presence of people that I had never met befo...

Wish I Was Gay Yaar

Sometimes when I reveal to straight female friends that I am biromantic, the response I receive is startling.  “Wish I was gay, yaar. Men are nothing.” This isn’t a common experience, but on enquir...

Ode To Oral Sex

Me: "I love oral sex..." Her: "Who doesn’t right? ;)" Me: "What I'm trying to say is that I prefer oral sex!" Her: "Everyone has their preferences re... There's nothing wrong with that." Me: "If I ...

Ode to Vanilla Sex

Is that a thing? Do we still talk about enjoying, loving or even preferring vanilla sex anymore? Or has the conventional become embarrassing and uncool? In the first two weeks of my conversations...

Orgasm During Sexual Assault

TW: R*pe & As*ault   Most people don’t like thinking about rape, but what comes to mind when you do? Violence? Rape committed by a stranger? Physical resistance? Does it still qualify as rape ...

Cannabis & Sex

What does cannabis really mean for sex? Most TV and movie portrayals would have it seem like sex after a doob or mixing cannabis with alcohol before sex is no biggie, but how much do we really unde...

Why Indian Officials Need Sex Education

As politicians rush to make impassioned speeches and celebrities share their ‘feminist’ poetry to urge us all to do better for women’s welfare, there’s only one question that comes to mind– haven’t...

Why Indian Police Need Sex Education

  93.1% of reported sexual assault cases involve perpetrators who were known by the survivor prior to the assault i.e. family members, peers, partners, employers, etc. 67 cases of rape are repo...

Why Indian Doctors Need Sex Education

The first time I sought medical support for menstrual distress was when I was 14. I had been experiencing waves of amenorrhea with severe menstrual pains and lower back spasms and hadn’t been able ...

Why Indian Lawyers and Judiciary Need Sex Education

As of February 2020, the lower judiciary of India composed of only 27.6% women from a total of 15,806 judges. Across our High Courts, women judges occupy only 10% of the total strength i.e. 70 out ...

PEP and PrEP for HIV: Dispelling the Myth of HIV/AIDS as a Death Sentence

How do we acknowledge preventative measures and treatments for a disease popularly seen as a social consequence or a moral judgement?

Stealthing: Defining Consent and Reframing Condom Removal

CW: Consent violations, as*ault, r*pe What is stealthing? Sounds almost like a cool or clever move, doesn’t it? But today’s subject is actually far from it. Stealthing is the act of a person takin...